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10 Things Guests Should Never Do at a Wedding

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As a guest, your job is easy-shmeasy. You show up at the ceremony & reception, you send your best wishes to the happy couple, and you enjoy all of the food, alcohol & music. You really don’t have to do anything else, unless you’re specifically asked to participate in another way. That being said, there are number of things you should NEVER do at a wedding:

  • Show up late to the ceremony: The bride and groom have spent a lot of their time & money planning their special day, and the least you can do is show up on time (especially those of you who received the invitations at least 8 weeks out, so have had ample time to plan). If you know you will be running late, we would recommend waiting until the ceremony is over so you don’t interrupt vows.
  • Wear White: A big NO, NO! Don’t even think about wearing white! Only the bride should be in white!
  • Change your seat assignments: This really throws everyone for a loop – the bridal party, the venue managers, the wedding planners, & the catering staff. Just don’t do it. If you have to, let the wedding planner and venue manager know so we can properly set you up at another table and make sure you get the food you ordered.
  • Change your dinner order / notify us of an allergy at the last minute: If you have the wrong dinner order, please let us know, we’ll be happy to accommodate. But please don’t change your order on us last minute. The bride & groom request this information months in advance for a reason.
  • Drink like it’s the first open bar you’ve ever been to: You definitely don’t want to be THAT guy / girl…
  • Hassle the bartender after last-call: Okay, you’ve had at least 3 hours of eating, drinking & dancing. No need to fret just because it’s last call. Go grab one more drink (when they announce last call) and call it a night. Don’t continue to bother the bartender 20 minutes after last call. We are required to stop serving alcohol within the last half hour of any event.
  • Wedding Crash: Wedding Crashers’ Rule #8: Be the life of the party. (THE PARTY YOU WERE INVITED TO). At Lesner Inn in Virginia Beach, we can host two events at once, but that doesn’t mean you’re invited to both events. Each event is private, so please respect that.
  • Vandalize property: DUH!
  • Refuse to leave after party is over: The fun has to end at some point. Please respect the wedding planner, the venue managers & staff and say your goodbyes to the newlyweds and move to the next stop (whether it be an after-party or home).
  • Steal centerpieces or décor: On your way out – DO NOT steal anything! The bride & groom, and their families, have spent a lot on making their day special – and this includes all of the little details. Unless the bride & groom give you permission to take centerpieces or decorative items home, then leave them.

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    SEPTEMBER 12, 2020
    We had such an amazing wedding at the Lesner this past weekend. With all of the hurdles we had to go through with COVID protocols, Alexis, Kim, and Lindsey went above and beyond to make our day feel normal- and it was PERFECT! They were so attentive to detail and helpful with things I had not thought of during the planning process. They took care of every detail and we had nothing to worry about on the day of Our wedding except showing up. I even had some last minute changes to decor that they were able to help with. The food was amazing and the view is seriously one you can’t beat. The sunset deck is Covered, so some rain is not a total game changer- but it also gives the guests a nice break from the reception hall (which is inside), which made our guests comfortable with spacing out during these times. Luckily our weather was perfect and the photos are literally amazing- there is no better view in Virginia Beach. I would highly recommend the Lesner for a wedding !!
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    JUNE 22, 2018
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    SEPTEMBER 24, 2016
    Alexis, We just wanted to say thank you for all that you did Saturday & all the planning leading up to our wedding day. We had such an amazing day! And we really appreciated you making sure we were taken care of throughout the night. You’re amazing at what you do & helped our wedding day turn out to be perfect! Thank you again!
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    JULY 15, 2017
    Girls at the Lesner Inn, Wow! I can’t believe it’s been just about a year since Jon and I came through the doors and knew that this would be the place we say “I do”. You guys are awesome and made planning a breeze even for this bride who didn’t have it all together. Thank you guys so much for everything, our day was perfect!
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    APRIL 8, 2018
    Lindsey! I am speechless! Friday was truly amazing. You went above and beyond to make our day so special! We loved every second of the night. Thank you also for the champagne glasses and kitchen towel. You are so sweet! Everyone raved about the night. You and Lesner Inn are AMAZING! Love you Kyle & Elise Miller
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