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Planning a Military Wedding – “Roger That!”

From creating your guest list to picking out the perfect centerpiece, planning a wedding is hard but planning a military wedding may be even more work. Keeping in mind the rules, regulations, and respect that come with planning a military wedding may have you wanting to go to the courtroom instead, but don’t lose your hair just yet, as we’ll break down how to properly plan a military wedding without breaking a nail!

The military chapel or the Lesner Inn? Both are amazing options but if you decide to go with the chapel, make sure to talk with your Chaplain about the logistics! If you fall in love with Lesner Inn and decide to have your wedding at a wedding venue, you get to work through the details with your fiancé. Check out some as you keep reading!

Right: Ryann Winn Photography

After you’ve chosen the venue and created the guest list, you can send out save the dates. Remember to address the guests with their proper rank. There should never be a Mr. or Mrs. in front of a General, Lieutenant. Sergeant. etc. unless told otherwise by the specific individual or installation.

“What should I wear?” If you’re in the military you have the option of wearing traditional wedding attire or wearing your service uniform. As for your guests, their attire should be at the same level of formality as the couple. If the bride and/or groom are wearing their uniforms then those in the guest count should also be wearing theirs. If you wear your uniform just for the ceremony and change after or wear it the entire night, it’s totally up to you!

Just like your save the dates and invitations, your seating chart and place cards should have proper rank in front of their names as well. There may even be seating guidelines that each branch of the military has, so be sure to chat with your fiancé about it to make sure all the rules are followed!

Left: Dustin Lewis Images

There’s a few other fun traditions when it comes to military weddings! You can cut the cake with the sword or have the wedding arch of swords. The newlyweds say I do and walk under the sword arch. Once at the end, they kiss and, if your fiancé is not in the military, you may find them trapped behind the last part of the arch until someone in the arch taps her with their sword as a way to welcome them into the family.

With so much to do, if you ever need more answers and just a bit of help, you can always ask the local base protocol officer or the installation’s chaplain! However, at the end of the day just enjoy it all because YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED to the love of your life!

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  • Mr. & Mrs. John­son

    MARCH 10, 2018
    ENTIRE VENUE

    Working with Lindsey and the Lesner Inn was great! I planned the majority of my wedding from out of town and Lindsey could not have been more patient with my constant emails. The venue looked beautiful at the reception and my guests loved the views and the food. The crab cakes were everyone’s favorite. Thank you so much to the Lesner Inn team and & Lindsey for such a beautiful wedding!

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    JUNE 22, 2018
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    SEPTEMBER 24, 2016
    LESNER HALL & SUNSET DECK

    Alexis, We just wanted to say thank you for all that you did Saturday & all the planning leading up to our wedding day. We had such an amazing day! And we really appreciated you making sure we were taken care of throughout the night. You’re amazing at what you do & helped our wedding day turn out to be perfect! Thank you again!

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    JULY 15, 2017
    LESNER HALL & SUNSET DECK

    Girls at the Lesner Inn, Wow! I can’t believe it’s been just about a year since Jon and I came through the doors and knew that this would be the place we say “I do”. You guys are awesome and made planning a breeze even for this bride who didn’t have it all together. Thank you guys so much for everything, our day was perfect!

  • Kyle & Elise Miller

    APRIL 8, 2018
    LESNER HALL & SUNSET DECK

    Lindsey!
    I am speechless! Friday was truly amazing. You went above and beyond to make our day so special! We loved every second of the night. Thank you also for the champagne glasses and kitchen towel. You are so sweet! Everyone raved about the night. You and Lesner Inn are AMAZING!
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    Kyle & Elise Miller

  • It's been a while since you've seen the faces behind the doors of Lesner Inn so we wanted to introduce our managers! First off… our fearless leader, Alexis Hionis. Alexis is a Virginia Beach native, born and bred. She is a graduate of the University of Virginia and after a short stint in the Los Angeles event industry, she returned to her East Coast beach roots. With an inherent love for all things wedding, paired with her creative energy and attention to detail, Alexis has found her home at The Lesner Inn. Since 2010, she has overseen hundreds of weddings but still hasn't grown tired of the excitement of the big day...and the wedding cakes. When she isn't in the office, you’ll find her giving back to the community she loves so much, through her nonprofit, @riseVB. Fun fact: she was recognized for her efforts in 2018 when she won Coastal Virginia Biz’s Best Local Leader Making A Difference award!
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