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The Top 3 Pros & Cons of a First Look

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First Look at The Brock Center | Virginia Beach, VA | Lesner Inn | SB Photographs

To first look, or not to first look, that is the question.

Probably since we were little, we’ve all dreamed about walking down the aisle and seeing our spouse-to-be for the first time on this day that will set the tone for the rest of our lives. But what is the best route to go: doing a first look prior to the ceremony or the first time we lay eyes on each other be the moment we are walking down the aisle? Let’s break this down.

First Look with the Father of the Bride | The Waterside Deck | Lesner Inn | Lia Everette Photography

Top 3 Reasons to do a First Look


This moment is so special and while we love the idea of all our friends and family experiencing this moment at the same time that we are, it can be a deeply emotional and beautiful moment for just the two of you to share. Everything that has led up to this moment comes pouring out through our tear ducts and it might be nice to have that moment with just you and your spouse.


You have time to touch up any hair and makeup foes after this emotional moment, so you look perfect and fresh again walking down the aisle for the bazillion pictures that are about to take place.


Speaking of pictures, a first look allows you take some pictures of just the two of you and also of you all plus your bridal party before the ceremony. The plus side to this? Less time taking photos during cocktail hour which means more time spent with your guests! And your photographer will be so grateful he or she gets more than just a one-hour cocktail hour to capture all of the family pictures, bridal party pictures & couple pictures.

Wedding at The Lesner Inn | Andi & Zoe Photography
Wedding at The Lesner Inn | Andi & Zoe Photography

Top 3 Reasons not to do a First Look

While we are pro first looks, here are the top 3 reasons we hear our clients share about not wanting to do a first look.


When seeing your spouse for the first time walking down the aisle surrounded by the people you two care about the most and who care about you two, there is no other experience like it. The photos capturing raw emotions and moments from you, your spouse and all your guests is so moving.


You have more getting ready time and do not need to rush. That extra hour or so can be life-changing and a lot less hectic.


It builds the anticipation and can make you even more excited to get down the aisle to marry the love of your life.

Wedding at The Lesner Inn | Daissy Torres Photography

It’s safe to say that there’s no right or wrong way of creating your dream wedding. You need to do what works best for you and your partner. This day should be just as you two imagined it – whether it’s keeping with long time traditions or saying sayonara to the cultural norms. We never tire of hearing all the creative ideas couples come up with for their big day!

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