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A Blended Family

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Sometimes you not only get married to the love of your life but you also are blessed to welcome in your new blended family. There are many ways to incorporate this new or already growing relationship onto your wedding day!

Photo: Leah Ariel Photography

Family Vows

During the ceremony, you would not only express the love and happiness you feel to say “I Do” but you would then turn and express your commitment to your future step-child. This allows you to acknowledge your promise to love, cherish, and honor them while also establishing and accepting the new family unit.

Sand Ceremony

If words cannot express how excited you are then try a symbolic gesture, such as the sand ceremony. A sand ceremony is when the bride and groom each have their own distinct color, which they then pour into one glass creating a beautiful blend of colored sand. Instead of just the bride and groom add on another color to symbolize your step-child and have them join you during the sand ceremony to create the colored glass. This allows them to feel like they are a part of the new relationship while the glass will stand as a perfect reminder of the growing relationship between everyone for them when they pass the blended colors in your home.

Junior Positions

Photo: Jason Jarvis Photography

Another way to incorporate your growing family is to honor your step child with an important junior position, such as junior best man or junior maid of honor. This allows them to be a part of the wedding from start to finish. Not only will they help in picking colors, table seating, and enjoy all the memorable moments but this also allows you to spend time with them. Talk to them and just check in with how they are feeling and doing throughout the process!

Family Medallion

Lastly, the family medallion is another great way to incorporate your step child. The medallion has three circles intersecting to symbolize bride, groom and child(-ren). The medallion can be on a necklace, bracelet, or chain. It can also be interchanged and put on a new piece of jewelry as they grow. It is typically presented by the couple after or before the rings are exchanged during the ceremony.

With just a few of many ideas to show how much love you feel to officially welcome your growing family just keep in mind that love is all you need to grow and foster your relationship with your new blended family!


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