The Ulti­mate Bride’s Day of Emer­gency Kit

After expe­ri­enc­ing count­less wed­dings, we’ve seen it all from blis­tered feet to tiny dress stains. Acci­dents hap­pen, and unfor­tu­nately, some things are just unavoid­able on your wed­ding day. Every wed­ding expert will tell you that a Wed­ding Day Emer­gency Kit is cru­cial on your big day! If you’ve never been a part of a bridal party, or even attended a wed­ding, you may be at a loss on what to put in your own kit. Here at the Lesner Inn, we’ve com­piled a list of items that can save you before and after you walk down the aisle!

The Lesner Inn’s Wedding Day Emergency Kit

Remem­ber, you know your­self bet­ter than any­one else, so some of these things might not make it into your Wed­ding Day Emer­gency Kit. It’s always bet­ter to be pre­pared than to look back and be upset that your nail pol­ish chipped right before you walked down the aisle or your eyes were red and itchy all night at the recep­tion. What’s the best part? All of these items are great to have around the house any­way, so you might as well bring them along for your wed­ding day too!

Just Breathe: For the Bride who is Strug­gling to Keep her Head above Water

You’re engaged! When is the wed­ding? What does your dress look like? Who is your pho­tog­ra­pher? Where are you going on your hon­ey­moon? The ques­tions never end! While some peo­ple love hav­ing the spot­light on them and rel­ish every sin­gle minute of the plan­ning process, we know that not every bride enjoys it. And you know what? That’s okay.

As one of our brides once told us, this process is only as hard as you want it to be. You will spend hours search­ing for the per­fect dress, writ­ing witty vows, craft­ing cen­ter­pieces, and pick­ing out a playlist. Some­times this all just seems too over­whelm­ing and you need to take a step back. Remem­ber the rea­son you are get­ting mar­ried. You are com­mit­ting your­self to your part­ner in front of your clos­est friends and fam­ily and at the end of the day, that’s all you really HAVE to do. It is easy to be swept up in Pin­ter­est boards and bridal mag­a­zines but remem­ber that in the end, this is your day. It will never be exactly like any­one else’s and that makes every sin­gle wed­ding spe­cial and orig­i­nal.

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If it all seems like too much and you don’t know where to start, check out your con­tract! Lesner Inn pro­vides a plan­ning guide for brides to have a check­list to work with. Your event man­ager will also help you with a floor plan and pick­ing out the lay­out of where tables need to go. Don’t be afraid to email one of the girls in our office to ask a ques­tion – that is what we are here for! We will meet with you about 3 months away from your wed­ding day to touch base and make sure things are on track. We will help you to fill out the plan­ning guide and get those pesky floor plans worked out. Then we will sit down with you two weeks before the wed­ding to final­ize these details. While it can seem over­whelm­ing when you are sit­ting up late at night furi­ously pin­ning images to a Pin­ter­est board, remem­ber that you are going to love your wed­ding day because you are mar­ry­ing the love of your life.

Don’t be afraid to take a step back from the plan­ning process and have a date night with your fiancé. Enjoy being engaged. Go to happy hour with your girl­friends and catch up on their lives. Log some time at the gym to blow off some steam. Catch up on your DVR and don’t feel guilty. Just because you are plan­ning a wed­ding doesn’t mean that you need to drop every­thing else in your life.

So…to bride who feels like she is tread­ing water and can barely keep her head above water, just breathe.

Incor­po­rat­ing More of Your Groom’s Style into the Wed­ding

It’s safe to say that new brides have been think­ing about their wed­ding day since they were lit­tle girls. Whether it’s imag­in­ing the per­fect dress, think­ing of pos­si­ble color schemes, or hav­ing a detailed Pin­ter­est board, girls know what they want for their big day. Although we’ve seen grooms who are very active with the wed­ding plan­ning process, a lot of guys just don’t get as into it as their brides do. So, how do you incor­po­rate your man’s style into your big day?

  • Food Tast­ing
  • The say­ing goes, “A way to a man’s heart is through his stom­ach.” Plan a food tast­ing with your man, so you can pick your food together! Our chef can pre­pare any­thing offered on our menus to cre­ate a fun lunch date for you and your groom. After the tast­ing, pick your favorites to pre­pare an amaz­ing menu for your friends and fam­ily!

  • Incor­po­rate His Passions
  • There are so many ways that you can incor­po­rate your man’s pas­sions into the recep­tion. If he really loves craft beer then have him select some local brews to be served at your wed­ding! Does he love his job? One of our grooms is a fire­fighter, and had some of his cowork­ers bring the fire truck to Lesner Inn before the cer­e­mony. The bridal party ended up tak­ing some amaz­ing pic­tures in front of it! Another groom is a den­tist, and took the garter removal to a whole new level with his den­tal assis­tants at his side. Adding these cre­ative per­sonal touches can really help cre­ate last­ing mem­o­ries of your spe­cial day!

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    Melody Gillikin Photography


  • What to Wear
  • Men’s fash­ion is slowly becom­ing more play­ful and fun, so why not let your groom and his boys have some fun too? A very com­mon trend is wear­ing fun socks under their dress pants. They can even play around with their attire with fun pat­terned ties and bow ties, cool pocket squares, or even inter­est­ing hats! Give your groom free reign, and he won’t dis­ap­point.

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    Tracy Sanders Photography


  • Groom’s Cake
  • Groom’s cakes are another won­der­ful way to show your groom that it’s his day too. A groom’s cake is dif­fer­ent from a wed­ding cake because it is designed and dec­o­rated how­ever you want, with­out need­ing to match a spe­cific wed­ding theme.This can be a fun sur­prise for your groom, or some­thing that he’s designed all on his own.

    Wed­dings today are all about rep­re­sent­ing both the bride and groom’s tastes and style rather than just the bride’s. When plan­ning your wed­ding, always remem­ber that it’s just as much his day as it is yours!

    Find us on Insta­gram

    Look­ing at venues can be a long and painful process. There are so many places in the Hamp­ton Roads area to choose from, and each offers unique ser­vices. Obvi­ously, you don’t want to have to drive all over the city explor­ing every pos­si­ble venue. So, how do you search numer­ous venues with­out dri­ving all over Hamp­ton Roads, and nar­row it down to just one per­fect venue?image2.PNG

    One social media account we are con­stantly updat­ing is our Insta­gram account, @lesnerinn. Through our Insta­gram, you can get a bet­ter idea of the breath­tak­ing views and func­tion­al­ity of the spaces we have to offer. Also, you can catch a glimpse of our favorite wed­ding moments, like first look shots or how they’ve dec­o­rated our venue. By fol­low­ing us, you will also be able to get weekly advice on how to ensure that your big day runs smoothly with our “Tip Tues­day” posts. Every Tues­day, we post a help­ful tid­bit, that we’ve learned through the count­less wed­dings we’ve image1 (3)hosted, about how to enhance your spe­cial day.

    Now maybe you want a behind the scenes look at the Lesner Inn?Thank­fully, we live in a world where every­thing is posted, hash-​tagged, geo-​tagged, and shared for the world to see. Yes, check­ing out our Insta­gram account is a great way to see what our venue has to offer, but an even bet­ter way to get the inside scoop on what it’s like to have your wed­ding at the Lesner Inn is look­ing through our geo-​tagged pho­tos. This offers those spe­cial pic­tures of the groom with his grooms­men before the wed­ding, the ring bearer break­ing it down on the dance floor, and the guests enjoy­ing drinks on our beau­ti­ful decks.

    Check out the beau­ti­ful décor, fun times on the dance floor, spe­cial moments between brides and their grooms, breath-​taking views from our deck, and more by fol­low­ing us on Insta­gram!

    You’re the Glaze to my Donut

    So…not sure if you all know, but today is June 3rd, which is a kind of BIG day in the world of dessert lovers. It’s National Donut Day. So if you are as dessert & donut crazy as we are (and there’s no shame in that), we hope you enjoy today’s blog with a mouth full of your favorite donut(s).

    While the tra­di­tional wed­ding cake has not been com­pletely replaced, alter­na­tives have paved their way into the wed­ding dessert indus­try. Many cou­ples forego the for­mal­ity and cost of a tra­di­tional 3 or 4 tier wed­ding cake and opt for a fun, light­hearted and deli­cious dessert sub­sti­tute – like a tower of home­made pow­dered or glazed donuts – instead. While the donut tower may seem uncon­ven­tional, it’s a unique way to set your spe­cial day apart from the rest, and it still amuses the bouche.

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    While the bride (or groom) may want the tra­di­tional wed­ding cake and/​or cake cut­ting expe­ri­ence, but the groom (or bride) yearns for the donut finale… don’t fret! Com­pro­mise is KEY in mar­riage. Top your donut cake with a top tier. This way, you get to enjoy the best of both worlds and still get the cake cut­ting pho­tographs :)

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    You DO-​NUT say no to a donut to-​go! At The Lesner Inn, we’ve seen donuts as a favor on a num­ber of occa­sions. It’s such a great idea! After a night filled with eat­ing and drink­ing, there’s noth­ing bet­ter to end your night or start your morn­ing with than a sweet treat. PS. How cute is the sign and the set up?! Je l’adore!

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    {Dustin Lewis Photography}


    Donuts are quite the crowd pleaser. Guests (& ven­dors) are always happy when they get to indulge. Check out Danny (Astro DJ) & Dustin Lewis (pho­tog­ra­pher) enjoy­ing some Duck Donuts with the new Mr. & Mrs. Binkowski, at their wed­ding at The Lesner Inn in Octo­ber! I mean, you don’t need to twist our arms. We will never turn down a donut (espe­cially not one from Duck Donuts!

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    {Dustin Lewis Photography}


    NO, thank YOU. After all, you are the glaze to my donut ;)

    Fun Sur­prises to Keep your Guests Guess­ing

    As a guest at a wed­ding, you will see the same tra­di­tions at almost every wed­ding you attend. Once you’ve seen one wed­ding, you’ve seen them all right? Wrong! If you want to keep your guests guess­ing at your tra­di­tional wed­ding, with­out the same bor­ing tra­di­tions, here are a few tips!

    lesner-inn-weddings-virginia-beach-flower-girls 1) The pro­ces­sional
    While we love watch­ing flower girls timidly make their way down the aisle, there’s some­thing about send­ing grand­par­ents down the aisle that brings a huge smile across our faces!


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    2) The vows
    We love when cou­ples write their own vows! There is so much more mean­ing to your words when they are orig­i­nal, and come from the expe­ri­ences you’ve shared together!

    3) The announce­ments
    When the grand­par­ents have been seated and your vows have been said, your bridal party will be ready to take the stage and be announced to the recep­tion hall. Typ­i­cally, bridal party announce­ments will occur in pairs or, in some cases, awk­ward groups of three. How­ever many peo­ple you have in your bridal party, why not chore­o­graph a dance with the whole group!?

    4) The garter
    The tra­di­tion of the groom remov­ing the garter from under the bride’s dress is just as awk­ward for your audi­ence as it is for you, so why not roll with the awk­ward­ness and make it com­i­cal!? We loved this doc­tor rou­tine this groom pulled off with his grooms­men while find­ing his bride’s garter!

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    Melody Gillikin Photography


    5) The bou­quet & garter recip­i­ents
    Pos­si­bly even more awk­ward than the groom remov­ing the garter from under the bride’s dress, is the poor soul who has to take the garter and place it under a poten­tial stranger’s dress. Instead of fol­low­ing tra­di­tion, why not reverse rolls and have the woman place the garter on a man’s leg? It elim­i­nates the awk­ward­ness and makes it a fun joke instead!

    6) After din­ner enter­tain­ment
    For all of the karaoke bar goers out there, why not bring the fun right to your recep­tion? Have your DJ pro­vide every­thing you need for some late night karaoke once all of your guests are out of cool dance moves!

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    Heather Hughes Photography


    We love see­ing peo­ple go above and beyond at their wed­dings to show their guests, and us, that they know how to have fun! When think­ing about your wed­ding tra­di­tions, don’t for­get to mix it up with some of these fun surprises!

    The Late Night Snack

    Evening recep­tions offer the oppor­tu­nity to host the party of all par­ties to cel­e­brate your recent nup­tials. After a deli­cious meal, it doesn’t take long for guests to make their way to the floor for some hard-​core danc­ing. A night of swirling and twirling com­bined with the occa­sional drink through­out the night, can leave guests fam­ished and in the mood for food! In order to keep your guests mov­ing about the dance floor all night long, Lesner Inn offers late night snacks for all of your guests with the late night munchies.

    Late night snacks are a pop­u­lar trend for 2016 wed­dings, and will help your guests get the good night sleep they deserve after all of the danc­ing and drink­ing they will be doing in cel­e­bra­tion of you and your new spouse! When think­ing of what to offer, it’s impor­tant to fig­ure out whether you want to offer savory, sweet, or both to snack on at the end of the night. Remem­ber, they most likely just enjoyed some deli­cious wed­ding cake, so a lot of our cou­ples choose from our savory bites for their guests. We offer a wide vari­ety of mini snacks that will help re-​energize your guests to keep them danc­ing until the end of the party. Listed below are the var­i­ous snacks you can choose from:

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    Bites: Chicken Ten­ders, Mac & Cheese Bites (pic­tured left — VA Pho­tog­ra­phy), Moz­zarella Cheese Sticks, Peanut But­ter & Jelly Sand­wiches, Mini Grilled Cheese, Parme­san French Fries, Mini Cheese Burg­ers, and Mini Hot Dogs in a Blan­ket

    Treats: Candy Bar, Milk & Home­made Cook­ies, Choco­late Dipped Straw­ber­ries, Ice Cream Sun­dae Bar, Pop­corn Sta­tion, Home­made Brown­ies, Key Lime Pie, and Apple Pie

    Although offer­ing late snacks isn’t manda­tory to make your recep­tion great, it’s an added bonus for you and your guests at the end of the night. You won’t regret pur­chas­ing these deli­cious treats from the Lesner Inn!

    If you want more infor­ma­tion on serv­ing these at your recep­tion, feel free to call our office at 7574811122 or email us at This email address is being pro­tected from spam­bots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it..

    Do You Need to Save the Top Tier of your Wed­ding Cake?

    As a new bride, you’ve prob­a­bly heard about all the fun wed­ding super­sti­tions. There’s every­thing from the groom not see­ing the bride before she walks down the aisle to mak­ing View More: http://ashleylesterphoto.pass.us/the-lohman-wedding
    sure the bride has some­thing old, new, bor­rowed and blue. Did you know there’s a com­mon tra­di­tion that deals with your very own wed­ding cake?

    When cre­at­ing the beau­ti­ful dessert for all your guests to enjoy, it’s cus­tom to save the top tier of the cake to eat one year after the wed­ding. This long­stand­ing tra­di­tion started as a way to save money. Cou­ples would save the top tier to use as the cake to cel­e­brate the chris­ten­ing of their first child. Today, cou­ples typ­i­cally pull the cake from their freezer to cel­e­brate their one-​year anniver­sary. Whether it brings good luck to eat it on your anniver­sary or bad luck to eat it early, how do you keep the cake for a whole year in your freezer?

    1.) The first option is to just not do it. Most bak­eries will recre­ate the top tier for you for an added on fee when you buy your wed­ding cake or offer a reduced price if you con­tact them again a month before your anniver­sary. One of our brides pur­chased her cake from Twisted Sis­ters Cup­cakes, and the cost of their cake includes a top tier cake to be picked up at their one year anniver­sary.

    2.) Now, if you’re ded­i­cated to sav­ing the tier there are a cou­ple of ways to keep it fresh. One way is to freeze the tier, unwrapped, until it’s frozen hard. Then, vac­uum seal it, and place it back in the freezer until you’re ready to eat it.

    3.) Another way to save it is to have a con­tainer ready at the recep­tion. As soon as you can, place the con­tainer in a refrig­er­a­tor. Once set­tled after your big day, wrap the con­tainer in tin­foil and place it in the freezer.

    4.) If you don’t have a vac­uum sealer or for­got the con­tainer, another things to do is wrap the cake in mul­ti­ple lay­ers of plas­tic wrap. Think about an unusu­ally large amount of plas­tic wrap, and start there. Then, place it in a small box or con­tainer and store it in your freezer.

    What­ever you want to do, let your event man­ager know, and we’ll help you the best we can. Whether it’s cut­ting the top tier for guests, or sav­ing it for your one-​year cel­e­bra­tion, there’s always a way to have your cake and eat it too.

    Photo credit to Ash­ley Lester Photography

    I RSVP’d, Now What?

    The invi­ta­tions have been mailed, and you were invited to the wed­ding of the year at the Lesner Inn. Look­ing at your cal­en­dar, you real­ize that you are unable to attend, and will have to RSVP “No” to the happy cou­ple. Now what? You’re prob­a­bly won­der­ing whether or not you’re sup­posed to send a gift to the bride and groom. Well, stop your won­der­ing, because we’ve found the answer.


    Although every sit­u­a­tion is dif­fer­ent, we believe it is always best to send the cou­ple a wed­ding gift. A cou­ple plan­ning their wed­ding is usu­ally lim­ited to the peo­ple they invite. You received an invi­ta­tion because they truly wanted you to come and wit­ness their spe­cial day. It never hurts to send some­thing to acknowl­edge the rela­tion­ship that the cou­ple has with you, and val­ues enough to invite you to wit­ness them say “I do”.

    Depend­ing on the rela­tion­ship between you and the cou­ple, there are so many options of things to send. When return­ing an RSVP card, a hand­writ­ten note con­grat­u­lat­ing the cou­ple is a touch­ing way to acknowl­edge their spe­cial day. If you aren’t plan­ning on send­ing a gift from the reg­istry, tuck­ing in a gift card to their favorite restau­rant or a store on their reg­istry is a nice touch.

    If you’re plan­ning on buy­ing them a gift, start the search after you return your RSVP card. Although late is bet­ter than never, it’s best to have the gift to the cou­ple by the wed­ding day or very soon after. As for the gift, it’s cus­tom­ary to buy some­thing directly off the reg­istry. Another com­mon trend has been giv­ing money for a Hon­ey­moon Fund. What­ever it is, know that the cou­ple will greatly appre­ci­ate your gift no mat­ter if it’s mod­est or grandeur.

    Spot­light Wed­ding: Nick & Ash­ley

    Lesner Inn sees hun­dreds of wed­dings come though our doors each year and we love learn­ing the story of each bride and being a part of their spe­cial day. We don’t want to keep all of these fan­tas­tic events to our­selves and we want to share some of our favorite wed­dings with you! We sat down with Ash­ley, one of our brides from last fall who was an absolute dream dur­ing the plan­ning process, so she could share some of her expe­ri­ences with you. We loved get­ting her phone calls and all of the girls in the office were on a first name basis with her by the end of the plan­ning process. Her wed­ding incor­po­rated a lot of details about her and Nick and she had some sur­prises in store for her guests too!

    1) Let’s start with a love story… how did you and Nick meet?lesner-inn-weddings-virginia-beach-nick-and-ashley “Brace your­self because this is about to get really cheesy. Before Nick and I offi­cially met we would always pass each other in the hall­ways at school. I imme­di­ately thought he was attrac­tive but there was some­thing else about him that was mys­te­ri­ous and unique. Nick and I offi­cially met dur­ing one of our high school lunch blocks in 2007 when he asked to sit with me at my lunch table. The rest is his­tory!”

    2) When did he pro­pose? “Nick and I love every­thing about Wash­ing­ton, D.C. We enjoy tak­ing trips up there to watch our favorite sports team play, the Wash­ing­ton Cap­i­tals, or just to sight see. On Jan­u­ary 4, 2015, Nick and I went to D.C. to cel­e­brate our eight year anniver­sary at a Cap­i­tals game. Before the game we decided to walk around a bit. When we were near the mon­u­ments Nick asked if we could sit down for a minute. Being the stub­born per­son that I am, I kept say­ing I didn’t want to sit down because the benches were wet. Nick put his rain jacket down on the bench for us to sit on and asked me to put my phone down and look up. Next thing I know he asked me to marry him! I was so happy and excited that I kept star­ing at my hand in shock through­out the whole hockey game! He com­pletely caught me off guard but it was so per­fect. Shortly before our trip I had told a close friend, who was recently engaged her­self, that if Nick pro­posed I would want it to be in DC so it could not have been more per­fect!”

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    3) How far in advance did you start the plan­ning process? “We got engaged in Jan­u­ary and got mar­ried in Octo­ber so I didn’t have too much time to plan. We knew that it was ideal to have a full year to plan but we also knew that we wanted a fall wed­ding so we just went with it  We started the plan­ning process as soon as we got back from DC! Buy­ing a wed­ding plan­ner book was extremely help­ful because it kept me on a time­line and also brought small details up that I prob­a­bly would have acci­den­tally over­looked.”

    4) Who were your ven­dors and why did you pick them? “This will be the length­i­est sec­tion because we LOVED our ven­dors. We absolutely fell in love with the Lesner Inn the minute we walked into the Open House. That’s actu­ally where we met our pho­tog­ra­pher, Dustin Lewis, too. We liked him so much that we picked our wed­ding date based off of his avail­abil­ity. We picked Danny from Astro Enter­tain­ment after meet­ing him at the Vow Bridal Event. Nick and I are both pretty shy and we loved how out­go­ing he was. Danny and Dustin are both friends so see­ing them work together at our wed­ding was awe­some. They’re so cre­ative and fun and bring good energy with them wher­ever they go. Dustin also referred us to our photo booth com­pany, SnapQube (are you see­ing a trend here?), who we adored. We still love look­ing at all of the photo strips in the album that they made for us. Water­ford Event Rentals was next door to Dustin’s office at the time so we stopped in there to talk with the girls. They referred us to Kelly Gish, who did all of our flow­ers and cen­ter­pieces. The girls at Water­ford spent so much time help­ing us fine-​tune exactly what we wanted. They truly went above and beyond any­thing we could have hoped for. Kelly cre­ated the most beau­ti­ful flower arrange­ments I have ever seen for our wed­ding. She helped us with so many design aspects of our wed­ding and we can’t thank her enough. We used Duck Donuts and Car­olina Cup­cak­ery for all of our baked goods and they were fab­u­lous. Nei­ther one of us are cake peo­ple so the donuts and cup­cakes were a per­fect fit. All of our ven­dors were awe­some and we couldn’t have done it with­out them.”

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    5) What were you most excited about for your wed­ding? “Mar­ry­ing my high school sweet­heart of course! But other than that I was so excited to have almost every­one we cared about in one space. Get­ting all dressed up and feel­ing like a princess didn’t hurt. I was super excited about the photo booth, donuts, and sparklers too. Nick and I both just wanted all of our guests to have a good time.”

    6) Where did you get most of your inspi­ra­tion from? “A wed­ding plan­ner was out­side of my bud­get so most of my inspi­ra­tion came from Pin­ter­est. I cre­ated sep­a­rate boards for all of the major details that I wanted to focus on. Some of the boards included signs, flow­ers, cen­ter­pieces, groom/​bridesmaid attire, etc. I would con­stantly pin away and then at the end of the week I would take a look at my boards. Even­tu­ally I saw a cer­tain style that I was con­sis­tently going back to so I deleted any pins that strayed away from that style. It sounds silly but it helped me focus. Before I started doing that my ideas were all over the place. My florist, Kelly Gish, also helped me tremen­dously. She knew what kind of flow­ers I wanted and she helped me to work my col­ors and all of the other design aspects that I wanted around that. She thinks out­side of the box and I love it.”

    7) Did you have any Pin­ter­est fails along the way? “Let’s just say that things on Pin­ter­est look way eas­ier than they are in real life! I had sev­eral Pin­ter­est fails but thank­fully none that were too cat­a­strophic. The worst one was prob­a­bly my seat­ing chart. My brides­maids actu­ally put my seat­ing chart together as I was get­ting my hair and makeup done the day of the wed­ding!”

    8) What advice do you have for brides who are plan­ning their own wed­ding? “I think it is very impor­tant to be real­is­tic of your bud­get and what you are capa­ble of. Don’t be afraid to call for backup or to ask your ven­dors for their opin­ion. Putting together a DIY wed­ding can be over­whelm­ing so I found it the most help­ful to break every­thing down into smaller tasks and to tackle one task at a time. It can be daunt­ing to do it all on our own but try not to get lost in the lit­tle things. Focus on the big pic­ture and don’t for­get why you are doing it all in the first place. Don’t blink because it flies by!”

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    9) If you did it all over again, what would you do dif­fer­ently? “If I did it all over again I wouldn’t stress as much! No mat­ter what you can’t please every­one and at the end of the day all that mat­ters is that you are get­ting mar­ried! The only ven­dor related change I would make is to include a video­g­ra­pher. I thought it was some­thing we could do with­out but when they say it will be over before you know it they are not kid­ding! I’d love to be able to play it all back in slow motion.”

    10) What was your favorite mem­ory from the wed­ding? “I have so many! I adored hav­ing both of our grand­mas as our flower girls. That meant more to us than any­thing. Plus we didn’t tell every­one so it was price­less see­ing everyone’s reac­tion. I also loved walk­ing into the recep­tion with my hus­band to Blink 182’s song ‘The Rock Show.’ Our first date was a con­cert and we love Blink 182. We were all about break­ing tra­di­tional rules and just hav­ing fun with every­thing!”

    Stay tuned for more spot­light wed­dings as the 2016 wed­ding sea­son kicks off!

    All pho­tos cred­ited to Dustin Lewis Pho­tog­ra­phy!

    Invi­ta­tion Edu­ca­tion

    Did you just get engaged? How many peo­ple have already asked you when the big day is? From day one of your engage­ment, you will be answer­ing ques­tion after ques­tion from friends and fam­ily. And once the invi­ta­tions go out, pre­pare for more ques­tions. Here are some tips to take into con­sid­er­a­tion when cre­at­ing your invites.

    What are we sup­posed to wear?

    This is the ques­tion that many guests strug­gle over. Is it a sun­dress and sport coat after­noon? Or a black tie affair? There are a few ways to address this con­cern in your invi­ta­tion. The eas­i­est way is to indi­cate the attire on the bot­tom of your invi­ta­tion. A sim­ple “black tie attire”, “casual attire”, or “cock­tail attire” will do the trick. A quick Google search will give you a wide selec­tion of phrases to pick from. But for the bride who does not want to clut­ter her invi­ta­tion with lots of words, there are more sub­tle ways to get the mes­sage across. Darker col­ors are more for­mal than light pas­tels, thicker invi­ta­tions are more for­mal than thin­ner. Make sure your font reflects the over­all atmos­phere too. If you are hav­ing more of a laid back wed­ding, stay away from flow­ing scripts and calligraphy.

    When am I get­ting my invitation?

    Typ­i­cally guests should expect a save the date 69 months before the wed­ding (even sooner than that if it is a des­ti­na­tion wed­ding) and the for­mal invi­ta­tion 23 month prior. Lesner Inn requires a final guest count 2 weeks before the wed­ding so make sure you build in enough time to call guests who have not RSVPed yet! 3 weeks away from the wed­ding is usu­ally a safe bet.

    What do we need to include with the invitation?

    This is up to you. We have seen invi­ta­tions that are as sim­ple as a time, date, and place and some that have mul­ti­ple cards stuffed into the enve­lope. At bare min­i­mum, include an RSVP card along with pre-​addressed and pre-​stamped enve­lope. It is a small ges­ture but it goes a long way in mak­ing sure your guests send those cards back promptly. If you are hav­ing a plated meal with more than one entrée, make sure to allow space for menu selections.

    Can my boyfriend come too? Are my kids invited?

    This is always a ques­tion that brides ask us. When mak­ing your guest list, con­sider that some peo­ple may have plus ones and oth­ers may not. If your guest does not know any­one else at the wed­ding but you and your S.O., con­sider giv­ing them a plus one. The same goes for mar­ried or engaged cou­ples, they typ­i­cally will expect a plus one. As far as boyfriends or girl­friends or wed­ding dates, that is com­pletely up to you! This is your wed­ding. The kid issue is always hard to address as well. If you are invit­ing the whole fam­ily, address the invi­ta­tion to ‘The John­son Fam­ily’. If you do want their kids to attend, sim­ply address is to “Mr. & Mrs. John John­son”. Some brides will even make a polite request that their wed­ding be an adult-​only affair.

    What is your wed­ding website?

    In the past few years, we have seen a HUGE increase in cou­ples with wed­ding web­sites. For non-​millenials, it may seem a lit­tle silly but wed­ding web­sites are a great way to present guests with infor­ma­tion instead of answer­ing text mes­sage after text mes­sage. You can include your reg­istry, cer­e­mony info, hotel blocks, and a lit­tle more infor­ma­tion about the bride and groom. Many guests enjoy get­ting to know your sig­nif­i­cant other before watch­ing you walk down the aisle to a stranger. Give them some fun facts so they get to know your loved one a lit­tle bet­ter.

    But how do you tell guests about this? You can pub­li­cize it on your Face­book, include it on your save the date or even send a small card with the web­site in your invi­ta­tion enve­lope.

    More ques­tions? Talk to your sta­tion­ary com­pany! We guar­an­tee they have heard every ques­tion in the book!

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