Wed­ding High­lights: Jamie & Jill 6-​2-​2017

Jamie & Jill tied the knot at Lesner Inn on June 2, 2017 in a beau­ti­ful cer­e­mony over­look­ing the Lynnhaven River sur­round by their fam­ily and friends. We spent the year lead­ing up to their wed­ding day plan­ning and help­ing them to cre­ate their dream wed­ding. Now that they have had time to relax after the mad­ness of wed­ding plan­ning, we touched base with them to hear about their big day from their point of view!

Love-Pride-Wedding-Lesner-Inn-Waterfront-Virginia-beach-Wedding-Venue First off, how and when did you meet?

We both teach at the uni­ver­sity level and have our Ph.D.’s. It was a job that brought us together. We became instant friends; and were friends for a few years before we started dat­ing.

We love a good pro­posal story – how did you get engaged?

Well, we actu­ally pro­posed to each other two weeks apart. Jill pro­posed first. She planned a fun week­end in Raleigh – see­ing Jamie’s favorite singer. Lit­tle did Jamie know she would get to meet her favorite singer AND when they got back to the hotel that night, she would be greeted with roses, choco­lates, cham­pagne… and, a beau­ti­ful ring! Two weeks later, while Jill was at work, Jamie dec­o­rated the house with bal­loons from which she hung pho­tos. In the mid­dle of it all, Jamie propos­ing to Jill!

Lesner Inn Lesbian Wedding Venue Virginia.jpgWhy did you pick Lesner Inn for your wed­ding and how long did it take you to find a venue?

Lesner pro­vided us the per­fect set­ting for our wed­ding… Lesner Hall, with the inside ball­room and out­door deck, was the per­fect set­ting to make our wed­ding dreams come true.

What out­side ven­dors did you use and why did you pick them?

  • Flut­ter­ing Flow­ers – we heard so many great things about Deb­bie, and every venue we vis­ited knew of her and loved her, we just had to check her out for our­selves. Her work was absolutely beautiful.
  • Valerie Betz Pho­tog­ra­phy – Val is one of Jamie’s best friends from High School, so she gra­ciously vol­un­teered her tal­ent for our wed­ding day.
  • Incred­i­ble Edi­bles Bak­ery – Jamie needed a gluten free cake, so we con­tacted those bak­eries adver­tis­ing GF wed­ding cakes… Incred­i­ble Edi­bles was deli­cious, so we went with them with­out even try­ing any other bakeries.
  • Water­ford Event Rentals (Table Cloths/​Linens/​Napkins) – They were highly rec­om­mended, so we used them. The ladies there were won­der­ful to work with. And, they had the most per­fect nap­kins and table linens to match our colors.
  • Cur­tis, with Hamp­ton Roads DJ – We found Cur­tis through an Inter­net search, gave him a call for more infor­ma­tion, and after a short chat we knew he was the right guy for the job.
Lesner-Inn-Wedding-Virginia-Beach-Staircase-Dramatic-Venue.jpg What was your vision for your wed­ding day and did it change through­out the plan­ning process? If so, how?

Right from the begin­ning, we wanted some­thing “beachy,” with a hint of ele­gance. And, we got just that – the deck gave us the water and out­door feel, and the ball­room gave us our ele­gance.

How did you pick your first dance song and why did you pick it?

Our first dance song, “Think­ing Out Loud” by Ed Sheeran was “our song.” We heard it one day, and felt like it really spoke the words in our hearts. We felt so blessed to have found each other, when nei­ther of us were really look­ing for love.

What were you most excited about for your wed­ding day?

See­ing it all come together. We put so much time, energy, and money into plan­ning our spe­cial day; we couldn’t wait to see it all come to life. It was just as per­fect and beau­ti­ful as we hoped it would be!
We also were immensely excited to offi­cially declare our love sur­rounded by all of our fam­ily and friends, those that sup­port us and love us most. It was an incred­i­bly mag­i­cal moment.


Were there any per­sonal touches that you put on your wed­ding day that were really spe­cial to you?

Lesner-Inn-Wedding-Details-Something-Old-Blue-Waterfront-Wedding.jpg One thing that we decided to do was cre­ate our own lit­tle memo­ri­als for those who couldn’t be with us on our spe­cial day. Jill’s father passed away sev­eral years ago, so she cut a heart out of one of his blue shirts… and, Jamie’s grand­fa­ther had passed away in Feb­ru­ary, so she cut a heart out of one of his favorite jean jack­ets. We pinned these inside our dresses – as our some­thing old and some­thing blue. We also included other memo­r­ial pieces in our bou­quets, and on a memo­r­ial board for the guests to see.

We also decided to cre­ate our own photo booth (which our 16 year old ama­teur pho­tog­ra­pher nephew was in charge of). It was a lot of fun find­ing and paint­ing props, and mak­ing the back­drop. As a spe­cial gift for our guests, we printed all the pho­to­booth pho­tos and sent them with our thank you’s.

We loved all the lit­tle per­sonal touches we added, but our favorite per­sonal touch was writ­ing our own vows. This was some­thing that was really impor­tant to us. It was def­i­nitely a chal­lenge, but was so worth it. We made each other cry, and our guests! And, now, we have those words to hold onto and live up to for­ever.


Are there any funny or silly moments from your wed­ding day or the plan­ning process that stand out to you?

The entire wed­ding day was FUN! But this prob­a­bly was the most mem­o­rable “funny moment” — Jamie’s dress was pretty fluffy… 3 bus­tles were inserted to help hold it all up for danc­ing (“They are really easy to find,” said the seam­stress). Well, it took sev­eral peo­ple, and their cell­phone flash­lights, to find 1 of those bus­tles. We never did find the other 2! Not so easy to find after all!

What advice do you have for other cou­ples plan­ning their wed­ding?

J+J-105Two of the best pieces of advice we could offer would be: 1) Cre­ate a bud­get and stick to it. Period. You can get really lost in all the lit­tle addi­tions or extras that add up. You don’t want to get so caught up in plan­ning the wed­ding that you lose sight of the most impor­tant thing– your mar­riage and com­mit­ment to each other. And, 2) Don’t expect your wed­ding day to be 100% per­fect… but, you can choose to accept any imper­fec­tions and just enjoy the day for what it is! The most impor­tant things are, of course say­ing “I do” and being sur­rounded by those who love and sup­port you. Every­thing else will likely be a detail you won’t clearly remem­ber.

Yes! We couldn’t agree with this more. All of your ven­dors will be work­ing tire­lessly to make sure that your wed­ding day is per­fect but some­times things hap­pen that are out of everyone’s con­trol. Go into your wed­ding day know­ing that – no mat­ter what hap­pens – it will be per­fect because you are mar­ry­ing the love of your life!

Pho­tos by Valerie Betz Pho­tog­ra­phy!

Want to read about more Lesner Inn cou­ples? Check out Trina & Greg’s Ben­gali Cer­e­mony & Recep­tion!



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